Peace

posted by Anne Stuart on Monday, November 12, 2007 . Post a comment for a chance to win free books!
I'm sitting here in my blue chenille robe, the one that zips up to the neck, in my bright red recliner, with my mini-Maine coon cat on my chest, low enough so that I can see over her royal fluffiness. The sun is shining brightly outside, probably because it's about 20 degrees, and it's another day, another dollar. Every now and then I stop and rub Pooska's head (my daughter named her -- she just showed up at our house one day and she's been with us ever since, along with Phantom, who arrived about eight years later and was lured inside with cheese. Did I mention we're a sucker for cats? We also have Cello, also known as Tubster, Meatwad, and other genial insults. It's not our fault he's so fat. We inherited him from my former brother-in-law, and he's a mellow, slightly OCD, bright orange cat not unlike Garfield, though less pugnacious.
Rosie, our English Springer Spaniel, is lying in the sunlight at my feet, calm for the moment (she's extremely neurotic, and we can't figure out why). When you've got your animals around you, including one planted on your chest, purring against your heart, then things can never look that bad.
I'm dealing with depression right now, for a variety of reasons (career, financial, my aging mother, my complicated children) and I have to say, the absolute best cure for it is having a cat or dog curl up with you and keep you company. Better than gorging on chocolate any day.

What's your cure for the blues? Got any ideas that aren't unhealthy, like compulsive shopping (never good when your worries are financial) or overeating or drinking? I could use all the help I can get.

8 Comments :

Blogger Darla said...

I know it may sound cliché, but exercise is one of the best ways to help. If you can't get out, then walk around the house with your animals...make a game out of it.

7:57 AM  
Blogger Tara Taylor Quinn said...

Krissie,

I always try to find that one thing that feels good - whether it be a dream of a trip overseas, or a french fry from Wendy's. Sometimes its having a movie day and working on crafts, sometimes its an intimate conversation with a friend. Anyway, I keep thinking of things until something feels good and then I try to think of it over and over throughout the day. Eventually the good feeling starts to perpetuate other good feelings.

And I always exercise. I hate it - unless I'm skating - but when I'm feeling bad, I hate everything so it doesn't make much difference what thing I'm hating. And the exercise WILL bring about good feeling. It releases endorphins that physically help you fight depression. They give you a temporary emotional high that reminds you what it feels like to feel good.

8:18 AM  
Blogger Estella said...

I pick up a book and read, and I am transported to a different world.

1:21 PM  
Blogger Patricia Potter said...

Krissie. . . Couldn't agree more about the animals. I take my ancient Shih Tzu to my mother's nursing home every night. She loves it, and so do all the other patients. But coming home, her head on my lap and snoring ever so softly, makes the visit so much better.

3:09 PM  
Blogger Suzanne Forster said...

Pets are the best, always the best for me. They love you no matter what. I can tell Mandy's been worried about me. When I'm wiped up, she snuggles up next to me or gets right up on my chest and stares into my eyes, as if she could restore me if she could only get my attention. She saves my life every day.

Meditation is amazing. I won't go into my methods. They're way too unorthodox, and everyone has to find their own way, anyway.

As Darla and Tara said, exercise. For me though, when I need it most I seem to have the least time for it, and I haven't figured out what to do about that. But I haven't given up.

I'm glad you had some quiet, communal time with all your fur-bearing buddies.

Suzanne

3:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Anne,

Having struggled with depression most of my 45 years on this planet, I am so sorry you have to go through it. I am proud of you just getting out of bed. It's easy to try and sleep through it all, but that doesn't work well. Perhaps keeping a gratitude journal or list. Sometimes that helped me shift my focus from the things that were black in my lift to the things that were colorful: the flowers blooming outside my window; my cats; the cool breeze coming in my window; the warm flannel jammies I had; a friend calling or e-mailing to see how I was; a good book to read.......you get the idea. And sometimes the gratitude was for the big things: the sun rose that morning; the Creator of the Universe loves me; I had a job that paid me decent money.......

Hang in there!!!! The depression won't last forever, even though it seems like it might.

robyn in Iowa

4:28 PM  
Blogger deseng said...

Hi Anne,

My mom has bouts of depression also. She takes Cymbalta for it. I get her out of the house as much as possible. Also, my brother brings his dog over named Mickey. He is a little miniature dachsund and is all black. That really perks her up! Animals are the best antidote to depression. They are absolute wonders! Scientific studies have proven that petting an animal can help lower your blood pressure amongst other things.

My suggestion would be to keep a varied routine. Try to stay happy by doing things you love to do. When the sun isn't out, create your own sunshine by putting on some dancing music, a pretty dress, and dancing to the music! Anything to get you up and moving and thinking happy thoughts. Also, being with the people you love and who make you smile will help you feel better.

Oh, one last thing, if you like to play games, find yourself a bunco group, or friends who like to play games. That is an all time favorite way to get your mind of your problems and have a lot of fun in the process!

7:01 PM  
Blogger Maggie Shayne said...

Now I'm dying to hear Suz's meditation techniques!

Krissie, know that you are loved and all is truly well. The thoughts that make you feel bad need to be chased away by thoughts that make you feel relief. Just keep reaching for feelings of relief. Gently, shift the focus to whatever gives you relief. Do only the things you really want to do.

I've been there too. Be easy on yourself. And know you are loved.

Maggie

4:44 AM  

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