Never. Just don’t do it. That would be my best advice on the subject, and I speak from what I suppose could be called bitter experience. Now, I know you’re thinking this blog is about the horrors of remodeling, and yes, I could write a blog about that. I could write a book about that. But what I really want to talk about is the joys of not remodeling, or better yet, if you’ve already started, the joys of not finishing.
Now the truth can be told. You don’t
have to finish your remodeling project. In fact, you shouldn’t. I’m almost tempted to suggest that if you haven’t started a remodeling project, you should—and then leave it unfinished. Why? I’ll tell you that in minute, but before I confess my sordid remodeling secrets—and make my relatives very angry at me—a little history.
We started the “project” about fifteen years ago. It got interrupted by several things, some of them more serious than others: the stock market crash, my elderly mom’s lingering illness, and many many many book deadlines. We did manage to get most of the big and really costly stuff done before the crash. The decks were expanded, all the closets were reorganized, the bathrooms redone, upstairs and down, and the entire kitchen torn limb from limb and put reconstructed, beautifully, I must say, except there isn’t a towel rack anywhere. Nowhere to hang a towel in that gorgeous new kitchen, not even a hook? Who designed that room? Can you say Home Depot? Enough said. This is not a blog on decorating nightmares.
Oh, and we had the windows hung with Silhouette blinds, the ones made of sheer silky fabric that turn the outside light blush pink. Lovely things. They’ve never worked right, but they are lovely. So, with most of the big stuff done, that only left carpeting, painting and new furniture—and that’s where we got stopped.
Fifteen years later, we have yet to get the place re-carpeted and repainted. Well, that’s not true. We did repaint the interior several years ago, but now it’s time to do it again. And we have picked up some new furniture here and there, like the dining room table we recently bought because my brainstorming group (of very patient writer buddies) got tired of eating off their laps.
Actually, for years I was depressed, down and dejected—or thought I was—about not having my house finished. I dreamed of a showplace, all fabulously redesigned, refurbished, and feng-shui’d. I was blue about not having a place to entertain and have company over, especially a guest bedroom for visiting relatives. Now, after close to a decade of relative-free years, I’ve seen the error of my ways.
Actually, we could finish the “project” now, although I know I’m going to regret admitting that. My mom has gone on better things, as she would put it, the market’s picked up again, and my deadlines aren’t stacked up like pancakes. Yes, we could finish.
Let me tell you all the reasons we aren’t going to do it.
First, remodeling is the perfect excuse for letting everything, except whatever it is you want—or have—to do, go totally to hell in a handbasket. This comes in very handy when you’re on a book deadline, writing 24-7, and struggling to schedule in bathroom breaks, much less housecleaning or entertaining.
Really, no one expects anything of you when you’re remodeling. You can’t throw holiday parties. You can’t host the visiting relatives. And no one can accuse you of being a bad housekeeper.
No matter what condition your house is in, you have an excuse. “Oh, sorry about that bathroom door hanging off the hinges. We’re remodeling.” “It is a little messy in here, isn’t it? We’re remodeling.” “Just put those things anywhere. We’re remodeling.” “The toilet doesn’t work? We’re …”
Well, you get the picture. And the advantages don’t end there. If you clean out and convert the spare bedroom, you’ll lose a wonderful storage room.
As I already mentioned, relatives can’t drop in on you when you’re on deadline, expecting to stay for awhile, whatever that vague term means. People tend to do this to southern Californians. I believe it’s because of the proximity of Disneyland. Everyone in my family believes Disneyland is in our backyard, yet with today’s traffic, we’re a good hour away from the Magic Kingdom. That does not discourage them for one second. A house with no guestroom does.
I’m sure I don’t have you tell you about the time and money you save by not finishing. No contractors to relocate you and your entire family while they’re doing major, horrifically expensive, work. And you can pour all that extra money into cars and computer equipment. (The dh likes this one.)
You don’t have to redecorate every few years because the styles have changed. Phooey on feng shui. Nobody will remember it by the time I get around to finishing this place.
If you should ever want to sell the house, you won’t have to “stage” it, which requires carting all your personal treasures down to the basement so the house will look spacious. Your personal treasures are already boxed up in basement, and have been since you started the “project” years ago.
In case of a divorce, there’s less of a fight for the house. Who wants “that” place?
Also, our cat is not traumatized by being shooed off the new furniture. She can sleep anywhere she darn well pleases—and does. And if she wants to scratch a chair arm. Well, no great loss. We’ll be getting new furniture … one of these decades.
Oh, and by the way, buying new furniture should be done with great caution. Yes, I have a lovely new dining room set, but what’s really changed? Well, I feel compelled to cook and serve things on it, that’s what. You see the problem?
When you have a beautiful new home, you must use it, show it off, invite people over, entertain. ::::quiver:::: I think it’s possible I may suffer from an entertaining phobia, and I’m not sure there’s a cure, but not finishing the “project” is a great Bandaid.
And meanwhile, I did come up with a clever (some might call it sneaky) alternative. If I absolutely have to have a place for relatives to stay, I can always suggest they trek on up to the family condo in Olympia, which isn’t finished either. The excuse there is that it’s a second home, and who ever finishes those. Also, if I feel inclined to have company, I can get it out of my system while I’m up there. The place actually has a functional guest bedroom and a loft. Hey, I could have all the relatives at once!
So, what to do? This is a moment of truth for the Forsters. We’re actually contemplating finishing the “project” and I’m trying to figure out how drastically our lives would change if we were to dare go through with it. I might have to entertain and the dh might have to stop buying cars and Mandy, the cat, would almost certainly be relegated to her cat tree by the window. No way would she be allowed to sleep on mom’s brand new luxury bedspread.
Hm, I think I know which way Mandy’s going to vote.
Suz