Time and Time Again! (Maggie)
posted by Maggie Shayne
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Thursday, August 14, 2008
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Little Jamey is home!
He was released from the hospital this past Monday, and so he and his family are happy at home, settling back in, and, I hope, beginning to recover from the traumatic events of the past month or so.
Chloe, the dog, is home, too, and my life is back to peaceful again. Although, I have to say, Dozer misses her a lot! Every once in awhile he whines plaintively, just to let me know. As soon as Jamey and family are up to having visitors, I'm going to take him with me for a happy reunion.
And so now my focus turns back to every day life. The ongoing repairs to the house. The newest cover art. Updating websites and writing blogs and columns and outlines and so on. And this week it hit me that I'm always rushing. I'm always in a hurry. I'm always perceiving my life as having too much to do and not enough time in which to do it, and that can be really frustrating. Especially when the shortages always seem to be in the things that mean the most to me. There's just never enough time to do the things I love best.
Now, I know that we create our own reality, so I know that by believing there's not enough time, I'm creating my own shortage of time. So the solution is obvious. I need to change the way I feel about time. I need to relax about it, line up with the notion that time is limitless, and abundant, and endless, and that there will always be more than enough of it. But the question of how to manage that remains. It's a change in mindset. It's a change in attitude. It's even a change in the way I talk about time. I have to train myself not to have those conversations where I'm saying how busy I am, how much I have to do, listing the endless, endless items and ending, always with, "There's just not enough time!"
So I'm going to work on that.
One of my little exercises is a creation box. You choose a pretty box, and you write in someplace obvious, Whatever this box contains, IS! And then you clip things, pictures, and so on, that you want, and you put them in the box, restating "Whatever this box contains, IS!" as you put them in. I just started this box.
I also have a poster board where I clip and paste things. It's my vision board. It's in plain sight. I'm not sure which method will work better, but I can see the two are very different. With the vision board, the things I want are in front of me, so I think of them often. With the box, it's more like they're hidden, as if you've released them to the hidden forces of the Universe to tend to, and you can stop worrying about them. So anything that makes me worry about not having it, goes into the box. And anything I can think about without worry, but with joyous expectation instead, goes on the board. Some things will go in both places.
So I think I'm going to find a watch, maybe a pocketwatch, to represent time. And I'm going to find a photo of what I like doing best, what I want more time to do, and glue it to the face of the watch, and I'm going to put that into my Creation Box.
In addition to that, I'm going to try to be more conscious about the ways I talk and think about time. And before I know it, there will be so much of it that I'll have to invent new ways to fill it all.
That's the plan, anyway! I'll let you know how it goes!
If you have any suggestions for calming down and relaxing more in relation to time, please post away! I'm collecting ideas!
Hugs,
Maggie
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8 Comments :
Jamey is so cute - and tiny! I know you are thrilled.
I love your concept of time. I, too, get tired of saying "I don't have enough time." Your hints and suggestions are wonderful.
Welcome Home Jamey!
A deep cleansing breath always helps me loosen up!
Personally when I get worries like what I need to have done and how much time I have to do it, I make a list so I don't forget things. Once the list is made a good amount of pressure is off so I can get things accomplished.
I really like your box and board idea, I'm going to try it!
I just finished my master's and I had to write the dreaded thesis. It was the longest four months of my life. The stress, the lack of sleep, the over-whelming sense of 'my entire life hinges on this damn paper'. I was a wreck for a lot this process.
The only thing that ever managed to calm me down was something my friend said to me, repeatedly.
"Amanda, have you ever NOT finished something important? Have you ever TRULY FAILED at something you set your mind to? Your homework always got done, every 20 page paper you have been asked to write you did, you did it on time and pretty damn well. In the end, it will come together, because it HAS TO COME TOGETHER".
God Bless Girlfriends.
Now this is from me, in 30 years will you remember not having done the grocery shopping on time. Will you remember not having exercised that one Wed? Will you remember having paid that bill 25 minutes after midnight the day it was due? Will you remember the oil change that was 500 miles over-due? No, none of that stuff stays with a person. Yes it's important and yes you have to do, but it truly doesn't matter in the end.
Try to get the crap you have to do done fast and early. Someone once told me, make a list of the 6 most important things you have to do tomorrow, put the easiest few at the top. Only ever put six on this list. Do the easy stuff first because it gives you the motivation to the harder stuff.
Sorry if I have rambled on, however, I just finished 6 years of straight college and I'm now trying to write my first novel. I've spent YEARS studying time management and stress management. It's a hobby of mine really. :)
Congrats on the cute baby, glad everyone is home and healthy!
At the Getty Museum, there's a gold clock that shows Cupid stealing an hour glass. The theme is Love Conquers Time. The clock design was popular with French aristocrats and often hung over beds.
Mary M
Maggie,
I also have done a lot of study on time management and reaching goals. I've managed to write five books this year by practising much of it.
To me, organization is a key. Organizing YOU. Look at the roles you play in life. Mother, writer, lover, friend, etc. And set goals for each. This helps you to focus on what you really want and puts in your conscious mind who you want to be. When its time to make decisions, you play those choices off of what you know about you.
I also do lists. They seem to take the weight and responsibility off of me. In my mind, as things that need to be done play over and over, they seem overwhelming. When I see them on paper in front of me, they're much less threatening.
Good Luck!
Wow, you all have SUCH amazing comments and insights! I'm taking notes!
Maggie
Hey, Hon! I've been dealing with this for the past year--so glad to see someone else blogging on this, too! I have spent years being the poster child for productivity and yet saying "I don't have enough time to do---" For about 6 months now, I made a conscious decision to STOP saying that. I also realized that activities expand to fit the time available (Parkinson's Law). So I've been actively simplifying and getting down to doing only what IIIIIII want, plus a few things I have to. It's a reclamation process,but I have been noticing a difference over this summer, and this morning, I went out and sat in the hammock for a few minutes and relished it and realized that for the first time in my life, I'm not in a hurry. It's really a state of mind and there's no time management textbooks/tapes/audiobooks that can substitute (if there were, I would have found them 20 years ago).
Love ya,
Lorna
PS: Yet another adorable grandbaby of yours!
Awww Maggie! Time management is often difficult, but you know what you have to do, right? Breathe! Remember that YOU deserve time for yourself and TAKE IT! We can sleep when we're dead!! hee hee
How many extra things are you doing that don't really matter? Of course, we want you to blog and talk to us online (b/c we, in fact, adore you), but... we wouldn't be upset if you took a day or two for yourself. Get stuff painted, made pretty, etc. Take a day and spend it with that adorable new grandbaby! ((HUGS to JAMEY!!)) Do what YOU want to do. Place things in importance-order and go from there (don't be afraid of making a list either! Marking those things off the list each time gives such a feeling of accomplishment... for me anyway... maybe I'm too OCD for my own good? lol!).
No one is going to hold anything against you if you don't get everything finished. Almost all of us are human, after all.
(((HUGS)))
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